Guiding Principle: Feelings Are Not Facts

“Feelings are not facts.” This Guiding Principle reminds me that no matter how strongly I feel about my point of view, it is still a feeling; it’s not an objective statement of reality. No matter how intensely I may feel I’m right about something, realizing that feelings are not facts keeps me from being self-righteous,

19 Jan, 2015
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Guiding Principle: The truth is just the truth

“The truth is just the truth.” This Guiding Principle reminds me that no matter how I interpret a situation, it remains exactly the same. It is the way it is, no matter what I make of it. There is no right and no wrong about it; it just is. Because of the nature of our

15 Jan, 2015
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A Tale of a Needed Time Out

A friend recently told me a story about needing a Time Out when driving with his wife to meet another couple for dinner. He thought he knew where the restaurant was but found he was mistaken. He asked his wife to call the restaurant but she hadn’t brought her cell phone. Let me interrupt the

12 Jan, 2015
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Hot Button Issues

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. refers to acting mindlessly in this hyperactivated way as reacting to a “hot-button issue” and “flipping our lid.” He emphasizes that by mindfully using the adult version of the Time Out technique during the incident, if possible, and by mindfully reflecting on the incident afterward, you can take responsibility for your

5 Jan, 2015
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Parenting Yourself by Giving Yourself a “Time Out”

Research on how the brain works also explains what happens when we encounter something that sets off our machinery and gets us activated so that we go into full battle alert, defending ourselves and/or attacking others. This research explains why, even after we’ve started becoming more mindful, we’re bound to become activated from time to

1 Jan, 2015
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