What To Do If You’re Very Self-Critical

A friend of mine thinks her adult children are wonderful people, and yet often she can’t sleep due to her constant self-criticism over the mistakes she feels she made parenting her children when they were young. The fact that she’s proud of them now and they love her does nothing to stop the self-criticism or

20 Jun, 2014
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Pause Your Machinery: Check your Programming

An excerpt from my recent book, Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, now available at Amazon: Stop and take a moment to “pause your machinery.” The concepts and techniques I present throughout my latest book, Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, require mindfulness to learn and master, and

16 Jun, 2014
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Communicating from Separate “Virtual Realities”

Why, even in our closest relationships, do we agree on some things and disagree on others? It’s because no matter how close we are to each other, we each still live in our own SEPARATE and UNIQUE “virtual reality,” which is shaped by our own individual perceptions and interpretations of the world around us.

12 Jun, 2014
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Silence: When Is It Good and When Is It Unproductive?

I was in an important meeting a few days ago with a business associate. Our relationship has been strained, so we are using a psychologist to facilitate our talks to resolve a disagreement, and she was in the meeting, too. The day after the meeting, the facilitator emailed us her summation of it. I was

29 May, 2014
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A New Way of Looking at Consciousness

Last Friday night I had dinner with a medical ethicist friend, and we talked about consciousness. He said it was a subject that he and his colleagues are constantly debating. From a medical ethicist’s point of view, the consideration of consciousness centers on the definition of life, as defined by a patient having an active

22 May, 2014
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