Some Final Guiding Principles

We can put our bad feelings into others just as they can put theirs into us. This Guiding Principle reminds me that people often dump their problems onto one another. It reminds me to not allow other people to put their bad feelings into me so that I’m stuck with them. I first learned this

2 Feb, 2015
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Guiding Principle: Don’t Live with Familiar Pain out of Fear of Awkward Pain

Don’t live with familiar pain out of fear of awkward pain. This Guiding Principle reminds me that it’s self-defeating to stay in a bad situation, repeating old painful behavior patterns just because I’m afraid of what might happen if I leave it and start anew. It reminds me not to stay in my personal prison

29 Jan, 2015
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Still More Guiding Principles

Every time something new happens, I go back to my old ways. This Guiding Principle reminds me that when I experience a situation in the present that my mind interprets as similar to a past situation, my amygdala will generally kidnap my common sense and cue me with my old default programming. Remembering that every

26 Jan, 2015
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More Guiding Principles

You can’t argue with another person’s perceptions. This Guiding Principle is closely related to “feelings aren’t facts.” You can’t argue with another person’s perceptions guides and reminds me that we’re all individuals. Each person has his or her own perceptions designed by that individual’s survival programming, with its unique interpretations. Those interpretations are the stories

22 Jan, 2015
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Guiding Principle: Feelings Are Not Facts

“Feelings are not facts.” This Guiding Principle reminds me that no matter how strongly I feel about my point of view, it is still a feeling; it’s not an objective statement of reality. No matter how intensely I may feel I’m right about something, realizing that feelings are not facts keeps me from being self-righteous,

19 Jan, 2015
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