How Organizing Principles and Acts Are Related

The more clearly I understood my Organizing Principles, the more clearly I saw how they relate to my acts. For example, my Organizing Principle “I’m not qualified to handle painful situations. That takes a real adult, and in my inner world I’m still a vulnerable kid” is the basis for my act, “Poor me, the

6 Nov, 2014
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Reflect on Your Behavior to See What Causes You to Act as You Do

Besides noticing the difference between your beliefs and attitudes and those of other people, another way to uncover your Organizing Principles is to reflect on your behavior to figure out the beliefs and core issues that cause you to act as you do. Start with observing the specific things you do routinely. For example,

3 Nov, 2014
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Define Your Beliefs

One way to uncover your Organizing Principles is to see if you can define your beliefs (and the behavior that results from them) by contrasting them with the beliefs of other people around you whose attitudes and actions strike you as very different from your own. Analyzing these differences can help you recognize and put

30 Oct, 2014
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Uncover Your Organizing Principles

Take this opportunity to uncover your Organizing Principles, see their limitations, and flip your perspective—all of which will start the process of no longer letting them run you. My Organizing Principles have been: The world isn’t safe; don’t trust. Painful feelings are dangerous. (The corollary is all feelings have the potential to be painful, so

27 Oct, 2014
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My Favorite Books – Part II

As promised, this week I’ll be sharing more books that have engrossed me and that I believe will either entertain or inspire you or give you new perspectives on life, relationships, our rapidly changing world today, and what we might expect in the future. I began reading Carlos Castaneda’s books in my 30s, starting

23 Oct, 2014
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