Reflect on Your Behavior to See What Causes You to Act as You Do

Besides noticing the difference between your beliefs and attitudes and those of other people, another way to uncover your Organizing Principles is to reflect on your behavior to figure out the beliefs and core issues that cause you to act as you do. Start with observing the specific things you do routinely. For example,

3 Nov, 2014
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Pause Your Machinery: Thinking Mindfully about Acts

Stop and take a moment to “pause your machinery.” The concepts and techniques I present throughout my latest book, Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, require mindfulness to learn and master, and this brief written exercise will give you the opportunity to rest, step outside the pattern of passive reading, and

9 Oct, 2014
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A Road Map for Becoming Mindfully Aware of How You Operate—Step 3

Step 3: Recognize the Clues That Help You Disengage from Your Acts It’s challenging to recognize and dis-identify with the mental chatter associated with our acts. We’re so used to the voice in our head talking to us in certain ways—the ways that it is wired to—that we may succumb to the programmed message that

2 Oct, 2014
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A Road Map for Becoming Mindfully Aware of How You Operate—Payoffs or Heavy Costs?

I’ve mentioned that our acts have three payoffs, but are these really payoffs? By becoming mindfully aware of and reflecting on my acts, I can now see that they don’t deliver real payoffs; they’re just payoffs for my machinery. They keep me trapped in my old fixed way of being and reinforce the neural

25 Sep, 2014
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A Road Map for Becoming Mindfully Aware of How You Operate— My “poor me” act

When I learned the concept of acts, I set myself the task of mindfully observing my thoughts and behavior to learn what my acts were. I began to see, for example, that in situations in which I felt shamed and blamed, the chatter in my mind was something like, “How could that person start

22 Sep, 2014
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