Overcoming Fear of Awkward Pain

I mentioned that one of the new Guiding Principles I’ve created to help me act in ways that are healthier and more productive is “Don’t live with familiar pain out of fear of awkward pain.” Fear of awkward pain is an outgrowth of fear of the unknown, and, by definition, change is the unknown. My

9 Mar, 2015
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Pause Your Machinery: Frog in Hot Water Relationships

Stop and take a moment to “pause your machinery.” The concepts and techniques I present throughout my latest book, Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, require mindfulness to learn and master, and this brief written exercise will give you the opportunity to rest, step outside the pattern of passive reading, and

2 Mar, 2015
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What’s Wrong with Being Right?

In my relationships, my default programming also directed a lot of my thoughts and feelings in support of my being “right.” Sometimes the desire to be right makes us attempt to make the other person wrong; sometimes it makes us withdraw into ourselves, as I did when I’d back off from taking a stance to

19 Feb, 2015
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Pause Your Machinery: A Frog in Hot Water

16 Feb, 2015
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My Own Frog-in-Hot-Water Moment

The myths I tell myself are important because they’re some of the factors that held me captive as a frog in hot water. When we’re stuck in frog-in-hot-water situations or relationships, I believe that one or more myths like mine are always contributing to keeping us in the pan while the water continues heating

12 Feb, 2015
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